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When it comes to emotions, it can be hard to feel valid in what you’re feeling. Personally, when I validate my own emotions, I feel so much calmer. So, here’s 3 ways to validate your own emotions.
Since I was raised bottling up my emotions, sometimes even at age 30 I don’t feel valid to have certain emotions. But when I actually validate my own emotions, I feel so much better! So, today I want to share with you 3 ways that I actually validate my own emotions on a regular basis.
First, I really love mentally connecting to my emotions. I’ve found it super helpful, especially when I’m with other people or in a place where I can’t be by myself to process the emotion.
Like when I was working at a recent full-time job and my coworker said something that bothered me. But it wasn’t a big enough comment that I wanted to address it with her.
So, I did a mental connection with my feeling and thought, “That comment made me feel angry. And it’s completely ok for me to feel anger.”
All you do is take a moment to make a mental connection with your feeling and acknowledge that what you’re feeling is valid.
For example, if you have some anger come up, all you do is acknowledge to yourself that you’re feeling that anger. It can be as simple as thinking, “I’m feeling sadness right now.” Then you move on.
Next, another technique I’ve found helpful is talking to my inner child about the emotion.
Recently I had a conflict with a friend. And it brought up a lot of emotions that triggered some of my old stories and trauma.
Since one of my old stories is that what I want doesn’t matter, I was feeling invisible and ignored and that what my friend expressed was more important than what I was feeling.
So, I had a conversation with my inner child about it later on when I was at home.
Actually, I speak to my inner child in my head as if I were talking to a person in front of me. I said, “I know you’re feeling so invisible, like you don’t matter and that what you want isn’t important. I see your feelings and they’re completely valid.”
Honestly, I try to validate my inner child as much as I can. The more I can make myself feel valid for what I’m feeling, the easier it is to process the emotion.
The next time you’re feeling negative emotions, try talking to your inner child about them. Once you validate that younger part of yourself who may not have been heard in the past, you’ll experience a healing release.
Finally, writing out my emotions is another way I acknowledge and validate how I’m feeling.
Sometimes I feel a lot of emotions all at once and it can be really overwhelming. So, I take time to spill all my thoughts onto my journal.
After I’ve written a page or two, then my mind gets clearer and I can start defining what I’m actually feeling.
Once I can define my emotion, then I validate it by telling myself why it’s ok that I’m feeling this emotion.
“I’m feeling so much confusion right now. It’s ok I’m feeling confusion because I’m really getting out of my comfort zone right now, so I’m trying to figure out a lot at once.”
Here’s a prompt for journaling your emotion:
“I’m feeling (emotion) right now. It’s ok that I’m feeling this emotion right now because…”
Writing out your emotions and acknowledging why it’s ok you’re feeling that will connect you to your emotion.
To summarize, it’s so important to validate your own emotions. Personally, I experience a lot of healing when I acknowledge what I’m feeling and know that it’s ok that I’m actually feeling it. Hopefully these techniques will help you gain clarity in your emotional life. How do you acknowledge your emotions? Tell me in the comments!
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