3 Things that Block Confidence
As I’ve improved my confidence, there are few road blocks that have stopped me from feeling amazing. So, today I want to share with you the 3 things that block confidence.
3 Things that Block Confidence
Being confident has always been an important focus to me. I’m sure you can relate…when someone confident enters a room, everyone takes note! People with confidence radiate, and everyone is drawn to them.
As I’ve worked on improving my own confidence over the years, I’ve encountered my own personal challenges. So, today I want to share the things that have been the biggest confidence blockers for me.
Block #1: Living Someone Else’s Ideal
The first thing that blocked my confidence was living other people’s idea of what my life should be like.
Since I was raised Mormon, I assumed I would spend my whole life as one. But I kept trying to fit myself into that mold, and I just didn’t fit.
And I was so frustrated the whole time! Why doesn’t this work for me? What’s wrong with me?!
I could list lots of other things I tried to make myself into that I just wasn’t. A chemistry major, a pageant queen, etc.
Remedy: Live Your Own Ideal of Life
But as I’ve started to live my own idea of a beautiful life, being confident has become so much easier. I know I’m being true to who I really am, so I naturally feel better.
If you’re not feeling confident, I would encourage you to seek what’s YOUR ideal life? Are you living it? If not, what changes can you make that will take you closer to that?
Block #2: Being Too Self-Critical
Another big thing that can sh*t all over your confidence is too much self-criticism. If you’re constantly being hard on yourself, that really won’t help you build you confidence.
Honestly, I can relate. As a recovering perfectionist, I can be super hard on myself. And it can be a really heavy mental weight.
But for real, this one can be tricky. Because even though I do my best to be positive in my head, sometimes I don’t even notice when I’m being too harsh with myself!
Remedy: Speak Gently to Yourself
However, the important point is that you improve how you talk to yourself over time. And I can say that as I work on this, I’ve become a lot healthier in my head.
I wrote a blog post about how to talk nicer to yourself here.
Once you start being gentler with yourself in your head, you’ll have more space to feel confident. And you really deserve that.
Block #3: Not Appreciating Your Gifts
Finally, this is another big block to confidence. And I’m totally guilty of it! I definitely don’t pay enough attention to my own gifts and talents.
Remedy: Focus on Your Gifts
But it’s all a matter of perspective, right? If you’re able to shift your focus from what’s “wrong” with you, to what’s amazing about you, you’ll actually see true evidence to be confident.
Finding Your Confidence
I firmly believe that deep down, we all naturally feel self-confident. The more in touch with yourself you get, the more you’ll feel excited to be you.
What makes you feel confident? Tell me in the comments!
Love,
Holly
If you loved what you read, pin it!
